Change, A 20-Something’s Best Friend

I’m officially heading toward “late 20’s” this week. No longer can I pull off “I’m in my mid-20’s”. Which is a bummer, but also… kinda good?

I think I’ll look back on my mid-20s one day, and think of it as nothing but exams, studying, and flipping out because I had no clue as to what I was doing as an intern.

So I’ll happily leave my era of graduate student and new professional into a time of DINK-hood and grown-up adventures.

More now than ever before, I look around at my friends (including fellow bloggers) and realize that people are really hitting their groove of happiness.  It’s as if the late-20s is a time of new-found happiness.

It feels good to be part of that trend. I too, feel like I am the happiest I have ever been.

Which, at the same time,  also feels a bit ridiculous for me to even say that.

AV and I are far from settled in our house. Currently, we could host a yoga class in our living room because we barely have any furniture. We’re taking this opportunity to get really good at our stretches and handstands?

We are absolutely working our butts off at our new jobs. It’s a lot of work to start new somewhere else. To prove yourself. To get “up and running” so-to-speak.  It’s exhausting. But also…empowering.

Owning a new house (that needs a lot of work) is not only a money-suck but also a time-suck. Obviously. Everyone and their mom has told me this. I know it.  For a few months, I was going to Home Depot 2+ times per week. EVERY WEEK.  It was out of hand. But after my exam, I was determined to keep the ball rolling on all our projects. I convinced myself that I was enjoying it, but when AV cut me off and told me to “not spend any money at HD for a little bit”…I was more than relieved. A break.

Change has been a big part of my 2015 so far. Back at the beginning of this year, I wrote a post on how my word of the year was “Create”. If only I knew then, what I know now, I should have picked the work “Change”.

Create. Change. They are starting to sound like the same thing in my book. Perhaps even a little like chaos.

One of the only consistencies through all of this, is the fact that AV and I are still married. Which I can understand now why people joke about remodeling causing divorces. Seriously though. Remodeling an only bathroom was rough.

While all this change has been “good” things, it’s can be stressful to handle it at the same time too. I’m learning to not fear change. I embrace it. I figure, at this point in my life, I would be crazy to not. Stepping out of my comfort zone has only brought rewards far greater than comfort of staying inside the box would have.

Most importantly, this change, has been a pivotal part of my happiness in my life. I really never have been happier. Life has this way of working out differently, even with the best of plans.

Rather than forcing change, I just have to keep learning to let it happen. Which is tough for a planner like me. But I have to say, sitting on the floor, totally exhausted has never felt so good.

 

 

 


On Blogging For a Year

In the midst of my blogging hiatus, I actually hit my blogging anniversary. Or as they say so lovingly in the blogosphere…a blogoversary.

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When I set out to start this blog a year ago, I had no clue what I was doing.  I am happy to report that a year in, I have slightly more than a clue as to what I am doing. And that’s ok.

The blogosphere can be a bit intimidating. In a sea of fashion and lifestyle bloggers talking about clothes and DIY, here I am talking about how to kick ass and take names.

Which isn’t a bad thing, but it’s also not a very common thing either. Again…there’s good and bad about having a blog that’s a bit different.

What I am most proud of was how quickly I was to commit to this space. I wrote 150 posts in the last year. Pretty dang good, if I say so myself. Especially considering how I have dropped the ball over the last month.  I am thrilled that I have been able to connect with the blogging community and have “met” some great ladies with fabulous blogs.

As much as I still don’t have a clue as to what I am doing, I have also learned a lot about blogging.

So. many. things. Which maybe I’ll write a post about, but let’s be real. I probably won’t. Because I hate writing about blogging. But I will say this:

What I am absolutely the most surprised at is how easy it is to make money with blogging. No really, I think it is. At the same time, it is a lot of work. For me, making money was never a goal with this space so I take it as it comes. But with the countless opportunities there are in the blogging world, really, the ways to make a few bucks are endless and have been pretty easy.  I know I will continue to learn and grow with blogging as the years go by and I look forward to seeing where this space takes me. Or I take it? It’s hard to tell sometimes… :)

To wrap  up my blogging anniversary,  I’ll leave you with my five most popular posts from the last year to catch up if you are new around here… as well as my favorite blogs to read!

Top 5 Popular Posts

Negotiating Your Salary: The ‘How’ and ‘Why’ to Do It

Negotiating Salary: The WHY and HOW to do it | www.beyondthekhakipants.co | @Beyond the Khaki Pants

Defining Your Success

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5 Pieces of “20-Something Advice” That I’ve Never Taken

5 Pieces of "20 Something Advise" that I've Never Taken |www.beyondthekhakipants.com

Test Taking Tips- How I Got Into the 90th Percentile

Test Taking Tips: How I got into the 90th Percentile!

Refinishing Our Hardwood Floors- The Before and After

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And because blogging is this fabulous community filled with wonderful women, here are my five favorite blogs (in no particular order) that I have grown to love reading consistently (and you should too!) over the last year:

Living In Yellow– Erin does a nice job of keeping it real in her posts with a hilarious sense of relatability and great photographs. If you’ve never read Living In Yellow (have you been living under a rock!?) start with her “about me”, it’s adorable!

A Sorta Fairytale: Mandy is a local blogger to the Seattle area so I love reading about her adventures around town. Her blog is great for Mom’s and non-Mom’s alike. Recently, I won my very first giveaway ever with her blog and won a $50 credit to Stitch Fix! Major score!! I love her relatability, even though our lives are so different! Go check her blog out NOW :)

East &– Nadine blogs a little about everything, which I love. Probably because we are close in age, both live in the city, and have an unfailing love for golden retrievers, I find a lot of her content as if I could have written it myself! I love her blog design as she keeps things clean and simple. Go check our her blog to read about her journey to her wedding early next year!

 


Taking Some Time

In the last month, I’ve found it hard to get to my computer.  With so much going on, it was hard to prioritize blogging.

I have also been trying to make an effort to step away from my phone. Which means very little social media updating.

Not posting + Absent social media presence = Blogging Fail.

But blogging failure, I will be. It has been a good break.

I have definitely felt like I have needed to be present in my life lately. With so much going on (especially super exciting things like buying our first house, 2 new jobs, etc.) it just seem like the right thing to do. To take some time to soak it all in. To experience it with loved ones without spending any screen time.

I think many bloggers can relate to this —> That moment when you are really on a blogging break that you forget you even have a blog It’s blissful. The responsibility seems to fade away.

But at the same time, it’s kind of a bummer. Because I just threw a housewarming party for 40 people that was fabulous and I forgot to take ONE stinkin’ photo. Not one.

There was even a piñata.

Dang it. Had I been on my blogging roll I would have that thing fully documented. But I forgot. And instead of snapping pics I was mingling with my guests and having a good time.

There’s the good and bad of being a blogger right there. I hope to get back into the swing of things. I love being able to write about topics I’m passionate about as well as have this space to remember special events.

In other news, our weather here is amazing. Summer is around the corner here in Seattle.  Happy MAY!

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Life, and a Bathroom Remodel Update

Life has had a lot of moving parts for me lately. Most likely too many, because for another week I feel short here on the ol blog.

Which is a bummer, because when life gets insane, it usually makes for some great blog posts. If only I had someone to get the thoughts out of my head and write on my blog for me. And also…if that person could come to work with me an do my documentation, that would be great.  Charting. The bane of the existence for any health care provider. #truth

Anyways…so many things going on that I just could not get myself to my computer.  I went days without opening my computer, let alone write a blog post. It’s tough to write when you feel like you are constantly running on E.

Now that spring is here, the weather in Seattle is warming up quite nicely. I feel like I am getting that second wave of energy that I have been missing in the last month since I took my board exam and been living through our remodel.

There is so much to be done with our house. I know we have “tons of time” to get to everything. But somethings are just driving us nuts. So we want to tackle them ASAP.  One of those things, getting proper window coverings for our living room and bedrooms. Which means, we should probably paint first.

So painting we are doing. Yippee. Except not.

Between the painting and the full time working, AV and I are also adjusting to new jobs. Which is really exciting. We are also having our housewarming party in a few weeks, so we are in a bit of a crunch to get to a point with the painting where we can put all our painting stuff away.

I do have some posts already in the works about career advancement. I have touched on subjects before of asking for raises and navigating career growth, but I have some awesome stories about how I recently negotiated a raise. Because duh, it’s me.... OF COURSE I asked for a raise. I realized there is one big thing that AV and I have done for years that has helped us in negotiating salary and in turn almost double our take home between the two of us in two years. So stay tuned for that tip coming to the blog soon.

So until then, I will leave you with this. An update on our bathroom remodel with a quick iphone photo. I promise it’s not as dark in there as the photo suggests. Real photos coming soon!

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Making No Excuses

I’m back from my blogging hiatus. There have been just too many things happening lately, but I am glad to be back to this space and my corner of the internet.

So part of what’s been going on is that I have started my “new job”…. which is really my same job but just at a new (much closer to where I live) location. It’s been a long time coming and I am thrilled at the time I am getting back from my commute. While the transfer has been a very long time coming, it also wasn’t the easiest thing to make this happen.

When I was in my early 20’s, I would be more likely to apologize for everything. I think many women fall victim to over-apologizing. Sorry this and sorry for that.  Often for things that I didn’t cause or in any shape could be at fault for. I feared upsetting people.

Flash forward only a few short years into my later 20’s and I find myself with a different approach.

I’m making no excuses for doing things that are right for me. Taking a step out of my comfort zone and asking for what I want.

Now, that sounds a little harsh, and not to mention selfish. But in sense, I think I have learned to be a little selfish.

About a month ago, I had a conversation with my boss regarding any news with my transfer for a clinic close to where I live. I have been patiently waiting (After about 10 months) for news that there would be a spot for me soon.  I hinted at that I may be interviewing somewhere else.

My boss was understandably upset with the news that I may be leaving the company.

Younger Trish would have been apologetic for upsetting her boss. Older Trish? Making no excuses for taking control of my career and my happiness, even if it upsets someone else. Ultimately, I’ve learned that I can’t always try to make everyone happy. Which sounds so obvious…yet, it’s still in my instincts to try to do.

The last few months have been a growing experience in my professional life where I really have taken the reins to creating a future that I want.

What all this really comes down to is this:

#SorryImNotSorry and the world is your oyster…but only if you make it to be.

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